婚姻的持久性

婚姻的自然反应是当两个人相爱时，每个人在这个爱里时，都会很主动和很情愿的情况下去付出来维持着这个婚姻。

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很多时候在婚礼上，见证一对夫妻的誓言时都会认为从此以后王子与公主都会过着幸福快乐的日子。

可是有些时候，现实的生活却恰恰相反。

如果对方开始有了以下的情况，婚姻的甜就开始变成酸辣，有些时候还可以烫伤另一个人：-

第一，对方开始认为您的付出是理所当然

第二，对方对您的存在也当做视而不见

第三，您总是那位主动的去迎合对方对我要求

第四，对方似乎把孩子当成婚姻的全部而忘了您

第五，柴米油盐都要您一个人负责

第六，就算您工作回到家，您还得侍侯对方

第七，您的付出没有赞美，而得到一堆抱怨

第八，对您的信息已读不回

第九，对外人特好，对您斤斤计较；或者

第十，突然消失没有通报时间表

以上的状况是不是都发生在你我的身上？也就是这样，现在都很流行一句话叫“短暂婚姻”，也许是个人主义的鼓吹，我们都渐渐的忘记，我们人类是群体生物，好的婚姻和家庭是要一起共建，而不是一个人自导自演。

好的剧本需要一群好的演员一起努力，这个戏才会拍得好，这个道理也同样的可以用在婚姻里。

我们的角色很敏感，说得太多，好像在鼓吹离婚，但是这篇其实是要强调“婚姻后的生活”其实才是人生必须要学习的一门学问, 因为这个知识可以减少离婚的数据，也可以鼓励更多的人结婚。

如果您现在的婚后生活跟您预期的不一样，不介意的话可以让我们知道。

我们的分享就到此，任何疑问记得我们是新山离婚律师。

Marriage should be a blissful union that mutual effort is a natural reaction when marriage is full with love. However, reality can be quite contrary. 

The marital bliss can turn bitter and even scorch the other individual, when the following trait happen:- 

1. He/she starts to take your efforts for granted. 
2. He/she starts to neglect you. 
3. You always take the initiative to accommodate the needs of him/her
4. He/she tends to forget about you and perceive the child as the core of the marriage. 
5. You are the only breadwinner.
6. You still have to serve him/her after back from work 
7. Suppose you should be receiving credit for your efforts, you instead receive a lot of complaints. 
8. He/she reads your message without responding. 
9. acting incredibly kind to strangers while ignoring you; or 
10. abruptly vanish

Does the aforementioned scenario sound familiar? 

Being lawyers, our roles are quite delicate when discussing this subject because we are concerned that if we talk endlessly about it, people will assume we are pro-divorce. 

However, the focus of this article is on the fact that understanding "life after marriage" is something that every person who reads this post should learn in order to lessen the number of divorces and to encourage more people to get married.

If your current marital situation differs from what you had anticipated, kindly let us know if you don't mind sharing it with us. 

Our sharing has come to an end, if you have any inquiries, keep in mind that we are divorce lawyer in Johor Bahru.